Remote app no longer working after upgrade to iOS 4.3 and iTunes 10.2.1 (1)

[Widget74]

I am unable to use my Remote app 2.1.1 with my iTunes 10.2.1.

I recently updated all software/firmware as follows:

1st Gen iPad - iOS 4.3 (8F190)
iTunes - 10.2.1 (1)
Remote - 2.1.1

I am using an iMac circa 2005 (6.1)
Mac OS X 10.6.7
2.33 Ghz Intel Core Duo; 2 GB 667 MHz DDR2 SDRAM

with a Netgear WNDR3400 router, SSID's turned off, WMM enabled.

I have turned on Home Sharing on both iTunes and the Remote app.

I have made sure that both iMac and iPad are on same network.

I have made sure that iTunes is allowing incoming connections through the firewall settings in system preferences.

I have deleted and reinstalled both iTunes on the iMac and Remote app on the iPad.

I have trashed the preferences for iTunes.

I have gone to Settings on the iPad and turned on Home Sharing through the iPod app.

I have reset the router.

I no longer see "check for iPods, iPhones, or iPads" in the iTunes preferences...ANYWHERE.

Nothing seems to work.

iTunes does not show my iPad when the Remote app is launched and gives me the 4 digit code to type in to pair it.

Anyone else having this issue?

Any solutions?

[jonathan]

did you go through everything here:

http://support.apple.com/kb/TS1741